This is PART 4 of a 4-PART article written with you in mind and designed to help minimize the stresses associated with over packed, overdone holidays so you have time for self-care, enjoy your time with family and friends and create the holiday season that best fits you and yours.
In Part 1, I discussed the importance of getting clear on what you WANT your holidays to look like and be like. And, just as important – what you DON’T WANT. And, I gave you a simple process for developing your vision. In Part 2 and Part 3 I showed you how to develop a plan to turn your vision into reality. In this final installment, I’ll explain how you can make sure that you work that plan and have the type of holidays you want.
Step 4 – Follow Your Plan
This is your opportunity to create a holiday that works for you. If you have a habit of allowing other’s needs/goals to come before yours AND you end up resentful, this is your opportunity to change. Feeling resentful after doing something for someone else is a sure sign your yes was not freely given and you are not taking good care of yourself. While life may throw you a few curve balls and you may need to readjust your priorities or your schedule, keep in mind your ultimate goal of creating holidays that you enjoy.
If you don’t feel capable of sticking to your goals because you feel selfish, seek counsel from friends who seem to have what you want or from a professional who can help you develop healthy boundaries, including the ability to say no and freely say yes!
Lastly, Be Flexible and Choose Laughter
Remember the turkey story in Part I? We still laugh about that, and the burnt pies!
Laughter truly is the best medicine and in any given moment, choosing laughter works much better than giving into stress.
Wishing you the best and happiest of holidays!